pantransautie
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peachy-queer

ok so i have A Question for y'all

Did you come out to your parents, and why or why not?

I'm on the fence, because on one hand, i'm 30, i live a whole state away from my parents, i see them at most 5 times a year, they don't really know anything about me other than where i live and where i work. (and, how many speeding tickets i get bc my dad likes to "check" on that sort of things. :):):) ) so on this hand, it really doesn't affect my life in any way if they do or don't know.

OTOH, not telling them means when i do visit or call, i'm constantly censoring myself. there's whole swaths of my life that i can't talk to my mom about. and, if my mom reacts badly, it could be the final nail in the coffin that takes me from low contact to no contact. (i say mom here, because, honestly, she's the only parent whose opinion even slightly matters. i only actively call/visit her, any contact with my dad is incidental)

and like, i kinda tried to tell my mom i was trans like...a decade ago, and she responded with the verbal equivalent of "la la la i can't hear you" so i'm not holding out a lot of hope it would go well.

idk. I feel like it shouldn't matter and i shouldn't care but i do because keeping quiet about it feels like i'm lying and erasing my existence as a queer person. I guess i'm just not sure if i want to take that leap of possibly leaving my mom alone with him, even though logically i know it's 125% Not My Problem and she's an adult but old habits die hard ig.

pantransautie

i came out to my parents because i was transitioning and i knew that if i didn’t come out they would be confused as to why my physical appearance and voice were changing

i came out to my them because i had nothing to lose in the sense that i was no longer dependent on them in any way prior to coming out

i came out to my parents because i wanted to be called by my real name, my real pronouns and my real gendered terms that were accurate to my real gender

i was also, quite simply, tired of being closeted, tired of feeling like i had to hide myself to appease them

it wouldn’t have been a big deal for me to lose them if they hadn’t accepted me because i didn’t want to interact anymore with people who didn’t accept me

i didn’t come out prior because my parents had power over me and i also didn’t feel ready to



food discourse - american edition

pantransautie

please state your opinion of any of the following:

  • ambrosia salad
  • baby octopus
  • biscuits and gravy
  • burgoo
  • chicken and waffles
  • chicken feet
  • chicken-fried steak
  • chitlins/chitterlings
  • cincinnati chili
  • deep-fried butter
  • donut burger
  • easy cheese/spray cheese
  • eel
  • fried chicken gizzards
  • frito pie
  • fry sauce
  • green bean casserole
  • grits
  • gumbo
  • jell-o salad
  • jell-o with whipped cream
  • kfc double down
  • koolickles
  • kraft singles
  • mayonnaise
  • mcrib
  • meatloaf
  • nick tahou hots garbage plate
  • olive loaf
  • panhaas/pork mush/scapple
  • peanut butter and banana sandwich
  • peanut butter and jelly
  • peanuts in coke
  • peeps
  • pickled pigs feet
  • pickled turkey gizzards
  • pineapple on pizza
  • poor man's gravy/red-eye gravy
  • pop-tarts
  • processed and shredded mozarella
  • red velvet cake
  • reindeer hot dogs
  • rocky mountain oysters
  • root beer float
  • sloppy joes
  • snow cone
  • southern fried rattlesnake
  • spam
  • string cheese
  • sweet potatoes with marshmallows
  • tater tot casserole
  • turducken
  • twinkies
pantransautie

my answers

yes please

  • ambrosia salad
  • baby octopus
  • biscuits and gravy
  • chicken and waffles
  • chicken-fried steak
  • cincinnati chili
  • donut burger
  • easy cheese/spray cheese
  • eel
  • frito pie
  • fry sauce
  • green bean casserole
  • grits
  • gumbo
  • jell-o with whipped cream
  • kfc double down
  • mayonnaise
  • mcrib
  • meatloaf
  • peanut butter and banana sandwich
  • peanut butter and jelly
  • peeps
  • pineapple on pizza
  • pop-tarts
  • processed and shredded mozarella
  • red velvet cake
  • root beer float
  • sloppy joes
  • snow cone
  • spam
  • string cheese
  • sweet potatoes with marshmallows
  • tater tot casserole
  • twinkies

i think i might like it

  • jell-o salad
  • nick tahou hots garbage plate
  • panhaas/pork mush/scrapple
  • peanuts in coke
  • poor man's gravy/red-eye gravy

no thanks

  • chicken feet
  • kraft singles

never in a million years

  • burgoo
  • chitlins/chitterlings
  • deep-fried butter
  • fried chicken gizzards
  • koolickles
  • olive loaf
  • pickled pigs feet
  • pickled turkey gizzards
  • reindeer hot dogs
  • rocky mountain oysters
  • southern fried rattlesnake
  • turducken


pantransautie
posted this
Time ago

food discourse - american edition

please state your opinion of any of the following:

  • ambrosia salad
  • baby octopus
  • biscuits and gravy
  • burgoo
  • chicken and waffles
  • chicken feet
  • chicken-fried steak
  • chitlins/chitterlings
  • cincinnati chili
  • deep-fried butter
  • donut burger
  • easy cheese/spray cheese
  • eel
  • fried chicken gizzards
  • frito pie
  • fry sauce
  • green bean casserole
  • grits
  • gumbo
  • jell-o salad
  • jell-o with whipped cream
  • kfc double down
  • koolickles
  • kraft singles
  • mayonnaise
  • mcrib
  • meatloaf
  • nick tahou hots garbage plate
  • olive loaf
  • panhaas/pork mush/scapple
  • peanut butter and banana sandwich
  • peanut butter and jelly
  • peanuts in coke
  • peeps
  • pickled pigs feet
  • pickled turkey gizzards
  • pineapple on pizza
  • poor man's gravy/red-eye gravy
  • pop-tarts
  • processed and shredded mozarella
  • red velvet cake
  • reindeer hot dogs
  • rocky mountain oysters
  • root beer float
  • sloppy joes
  • snow cone
  • southern fried rattlesnake
  • spam
  • string cheese
  • sweet potatoes with marshmallows
  • tater tot casserole
  • turducken
  • twinkies

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